Humpty Dumpty

“I’m dishonest, and a dishonest man you can always trust to be dishonest. Honestly, it’s the honest ones you want to watch out for, because you can never predict when they’re going to do something incredibly stupid.” – Jack Sparrow

Humpty Dumpty sat on a wall,  Humpty Dumpty had a great fall;  All the king’s horses and all the king’s men, couldn’t put Humpty together again.” – Mother Goose Rhyme.
Once upon a time, I started to fall for someone. Obviously, things didn’t work out and it was for the better. I learned a lot and became a better person. These changes resulted in me finding the love of my life. I’m lucky that I did. That stupid guy broke my heart and unfortunately, Deric was the rebound. My husband saw the damage and helped me learn to trust and heal again. (I’m telling you, this man is freaking perfect for me!)
I was so blind and naive.
He probably got off on how easy it was for him to take advantage of me. Him and her probably enjoyed gut-jiggling laughs about how foolish I was to believe every promise he made.
I’m lucky that I got to keep my stripes. I’m lucky that the wonderful man I married doesn’t hold my past against me.
I used to ask myself why he chose to stay with her. They have a kid together. Most people stay with the cheaters because they are afraid to do it all on their own. That makes me chuckle. I don’t know why he chose to stay. Now they are expecting kid #2. That is a winning relationship folks.
This leads me to my advice for those that are either the “other woman/man” or have been cheated on….
1.) Leave them. If you are the “other” one, that person you are “sooo in love” with… yea… they will never leave the relationship; to which you are the other person.
2.) They were dumb enough to cheat instead of leaving the relationship. No matter what promises they will make, they will always be cheaters. It’s a matter of “when”, not “if”! If you think you are the exception, I promise that you are not. Don’t come crying to me when they do it again. I’m an insensitive asshole and I will probably chuckle at your problems and tears as I light my cigarette.
3.) People cheat for one main reason. They aren’t getting what they want out of their current relationship. If you were the one that was cheated on, have the balls to walk away. I know it’s scary but I did it. I don’t have kids but my mother did when she left my biological father. If you are “the other one”, the cheater will get bored and the cycle will repeat. (See item #1 on this list.)
4.) This is redundant but seriouslyGrow a pair, accept that the relationship isn’t worth it and start walking your own path.
5.) ***If you have a child(ren) with this person***: Don’t be an asshole. Put the child first. If the cheater is a good parent, don’t take the kid from them. It’s not fucking about you! Don’t use your child to manipulate the cheater into staying in the relationship with you, paying you money or to hurt the cheater. Be the bigger, financially independent person.
So, my rant is over. Feel free to continue living your life the way you want. Just don’t come crying to me after they cheat on you for the millionth time or they never leave the relationship for you. I don’t have the time to coddle idiots.
“I’m dishonest, and a dishonest man you can always trust to be dishonest. Honestly, it’s the honest ones you want to watch out for, because you can never predict when they’re going to do something incredibly stupid.” – Jack Sparrow

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